Honor and Duty

A couple of days ago, I wrote a post about resurrecting honor.  Unlike most posts here, this one took off and blew up thanks to a link  from Instapundit.  It also spawned some interesting discussions on Facebook.  Since that first post was never intended to be all encompassing–it’s not a subject you can write about in a thousand words and call it done–it may be worth a second look at honor based on those discussions.

Photo courtesy of the U.S. Army
Photo courtesy of the U.S. Army

You see, several people argued that honor is intimately tied to the idea of duty.  They have a point.

Honor is, in part, based on how one performs his duty.  It doesn’t matter what that duty is, what matters is how you perform it.  The janitor who takes care in cleaning the building has infinitely more honor than the CEO who just uses his job for the perks while he’s running the company into the ground. Continue reading “Honor and Duty”

Resurrecting Honor

Once upon a time, honor mattered.  It was universal and vital for men to maintain their honor.  People were actually killed in an effort to defend it…though it’s not all bad.  Some killed by men defending their honor got hit musicals made about them, so there was an upside apparently.

Photo by torbakhopper
Photo by torbakhopper

Today, honor is just one of those things people don’t think much about.  A handful of people still do, but society as a whole seem to think of honor as a quaint relic of a bygone era.

Once people stopped holding their honor as sacred, the world began a nasty descent into what it has become today.  Men and women both view relationships, even marriage, as temporary arrangements and get married only for tax benefits or to be on one another’s insurance, nothing more.  So-called “protestors” initiate violence regularly.  Alleged leaders defend a would-be killer and excoriate the police officer who ended the threat.

Honor, for most people, is a thing of the past.

However, if enough people resurrect honor as an important thing, we can change that.  We can make honor matter again. Continue reading “Resurrecting Honor”

The Basics of Punching

The truth is, men fight.  Maybe not for fun, but every person I know of that meets the definition of “man” I’ve laid out has been in at least one fight in their lives.  When you think about it, it’s inevitable.

However, if you’re someone raised in the “conflict is bad” era, you may not know how to correctly throw punches.

If you’re one of those, no judgment here.  You’re at least wanting to learn how to throw down if you ever need to, so here’s a video I came across that might help.  Please excuse the hamhanded attempts at advertising, because the information is pretty good.

These are just two punches, and there are plenty of them, but it’s a good start. Learn these two correctly and practice them regularly, and you’ll be well ahead of the curve if you find yourself in a fight. Continue reading “The Basics of Punching”

Strength Versus Aesthetics

Should men worry about how they look?

I’m not talking about guys making sure they’re well groomed or well dressed.  That’s one of those things each guy should determine for themselves.  Personally, I appreciate sharp clothes and all that, though I’m more likely to be dressed like a slob most of the time, so who am I to judge?

What I’m talking about is whether a man should be worried about the aesthetics of his physique or not.

Lord knows that my physique isn’t much to look at, though my wife seems to enjoy the view well enough.  However, what about in general?  That’s the question that strength trainer Mark Rippetoe answered in this podcast I came across a few days ago.  It’s kind of long, and takes a couple minutes to really get rolling, but please bear with it:

Of particular interest was where Rippetoe makes a hell of a point about aesthetics when he points out that your six-pack abs won’t impress anyone unless they see it, but if you’re muscular overall, even if you have a bit of a gut, they’ll still know you put in the work.

What that means that if you’re like two-thirds of all Americans, you may still need to lose a few pounds, but the rippling six-pack may not be the best way to spend your gym time.

Mark and the host, Mike Matthews, have a hell of an interesting discussion regarding the issue and it’s well worth your time to watch and learn.

Seriously, I wish I’d seen this when I was 19.

Are You Strong Enough?

A man is often judged by his strength.  A physically weak man is often judged as being less of a man.  A physically strong man is judged as being more of a man.  This is a simple fact and isn’t really open for discussion.

Whether this is right or wrong is irrelevant.  It is what it is, and as men, it behooves us to understand just why that’s the case.

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Photo by sumoman.co.uk

It goes back to the days when physical strength was an essential skill.  You needed it to carry more firewood or more of an animal’s carcass.  Even today, we still valued strength because a strong man is always more useful than a weak one.  After all, a strong man can still pick flowers, but a weak man can’t pick up his end of a massive log.

So that begs a question.  Are you strong enough?

Probably not. Continue reading “Are You Strong Enough?”

Cultivating The Warrior Mind

Once upon a time, if you had a penis, you were expected to do certain things.  Among those things was to defend your tribe.  Each and every male was expected to earn the title of man and defend their home from invaders.

Men were warriors.

Modern day warriors at work.  Photo by James Brooks
Modern day warriors at work. Photo by James Brooks

As time passed, this idea faded.  As numbers grew, it became less and less important for all men to be warriors and, instead, the responsibility was handed to a select group who prepared for war full-time.   However, in many of these eras, men still had to

However, in many of these eras, men still had to step up and prepare for battle at least some of the team.  Militias were formed to supplement the full-time warriors, which meant at least some had to have a warrior mindset in addition to their duties as farmers, potters, carpenters, etc. Continue reading “Cultivating The Warrior Mind”

On Civilized Men And Ruthless Savages

“Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing.” — Robert E. Howard

Robert E. Howard is best known as the creator of Conan the Barbarian, but this quote from him may be my most favorite thing from him.

Photo by Dennis Jarvis
Photo by Dennis Jarvis

You see, he’s right.

Take a look around you for a moment.  The world is filled with people being discourteous to others for any number of reasons.  Just yesterday I watched a video of a student group being besieged for an hour by their political opponents, belittled and accused, told they don’t belong in their college because they’re not liberals.

The whole thing wasn’t a pleasant experience for those surrounded, I’m sure, but what if there had been repercussions for that act?  What if these special snowflakes had been forced to deal with real violence for their discourteous behavior?  What would they have done then? Continue reading “On Civilized Men And Ruthless Savages”

The Upbringing For A Warrior Elite

Photo by Liz Henry
Photo by Liz Henry

I’ll be honest, a lot of times, it feels like the press is against us as men.  Everything about men sucks and everything that might possibly lead to more men is awful.  That’s how it feels.

So imagine my surprise when this particular article showed up in my Facebook feed yesterday.  It’s all about how boys should be permitted to play with weapons like sticks and swords and stuff.

Here’s one of the best parts of the whole thing: Continue reading “The Upbringing For A Warrior Elite”

To Build A Community

Photo by Kevin Dooley
Photo by Kevin Dooley

Over the weekend, I talked a bit about “tribes” and why tribes aren’t such a bad thing.  Now, I’d like to float my own idea for an intentional tribe, or a community.  Whatever term you use is irrelevant.  What matters is that it’s a group of people who bind themselves together under a set of principles.

What follows are my own ideas for my own community.  If you are using this as a guideline for your own, awesome.  I merely ask you to change the name. Continue reading “To Build A Community”

Women, Nice Guys, and Tough Guys

One of the things Game practitioners supposedly did back in the early days was look at the things women responded to.  For example, characters in romance novels.  They argued, and on this I’m in agreement, that what women wanted in their escapism is indicative of what they want in their lives.

Photo by Vladimir Pustovit
Photo by Vladimir Pustovit

Hey, I read about spaceships and dragons in my escapism, and those would be awesome in real life, so I agree.

Well, as a novelist myself, I was on Amazon looking for books that have MMA as a central theme.  I had an idea for a story that used it, and I wanted to see how other authors handled the detailed and technical aspects of fighting.

I looked up “MMA fighter fiction”, and the results were kind of eye opening. Continue reading “Women, Nice Guys, and Tough Guys”